Jacqueline Newman’s The New Rules of Divorce is hands down the best book I’ve read on the subject. As a high-net-worth divorce lawyer in New York City, Newman brings a wealth of experience and insight to the table. These are a few key highlights that stood out to me:
- Isn’t it depressing seeing marriages fall apart around you all the time?
The answer is no. Newman sees divorce as an opportunity to transition out of an unhealthy relationship and prepare oneself to enter a new, healthier one. - Divorce doesn’t have to define your family forever.
Ultimately, all divorcing parents want their kids to grow into happy, well-adjusted individuals capable of managing their lives, forming successful relationships, and staying connected with their families. In fact, growing up in two peaceful homes can sometimes be better for children than growing up in one broken one. - Your children are not your friends – nor should they be.
No matter how old your children are, you should not be confiding in them, venting to them, or involving them in the details of your divorce. Your children don’t need to know your lawyer’s name or the specifics of your spousal support arrangement.
What I appreciated most about this book is its realistic and optimistic approach to divorce. Unlike other books that either dismiss divorce as unnecessary or portray marriage as a chaotic mess to escape from, Newman strikes a balanced tone. She offers a tempered perspective on divorce, helping readers navigate the process with a sense of hope rather than dread.